Sex And Psychology

How do you create a lasting connection with a partner and sustain passion in a relationship over time? In today’s show, we’re going to discuss the secrets you need to know for cultivating hot...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-342-the-secret-to-cultivating-passion/

One of the most common sex problems people report today is that they can’t seem to clear their mind during sex. They find themselves distracted or they’re multi-tasking, and this is getting i...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-341-how-to-stop-feeling-distracted-during-sex/

Social media has permeated many aspects of our lives, including our intimate lives. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss the good, bad, and ugly of how social media has changed dating. Som...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-340-is-social-media-ruining-dating/

What do young adults today want from sex and relationships? And how is this different compared to generations past? To answer these questions, we’re going to dive into The State of Dating Repor...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-339-how-gen-z-is-redefining-sex-and-relationships/

In today’s show, we’re answering more of your sex questions! This is our third dive into some of the questions that have come through our listener voicemail. I’m going to answer three of th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-338-the-science-of-libido-orgasm-and-desire/

Sexual desire is complex. Scientists can’t even agree on a definition of it, let alone whether and how it is distinct from arousal. In today’s show, we’re going to revisit one of my favorit...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-337-understanding-womens-sexual-desire-essential-listen/

A growing number of people seem to be hitting the pause button on their sex lives, which is why terms like “volcel” (short for voluntary celibacy) and “boysober” are trending on social me...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-336-not-having-sex-is-the-latest-sex-trend/

If you had to define “good sex” in just three words, what would they be? In today’s show, we’re going to talk about the key things that come to mind when people are asked this question. T...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-335-how-to-have-good-sex/

Many women don’t know what they really need to know about maintaining good vaginal health, which leads some of them to turn to products and practices that might do more harm than good. So in to...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-334-how-to-have-a-happy-vagina/

Psychedelic use is at an all-time high among young adults. These drugs are used for many purposes, but often for sex. So let’s talk about “trippy” sex. In this episode, we’re going to dis...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-333-what-its-like-to-have-sex-on-psychedelics/

A lot of people consume cannabis prior to sexual activity. But how exactly does cannabis affect sex, and what do you need to know about it? In today’s show, we’re going to dive into what the ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-332-how-cannabis-affects-sex/

“Bromance” is a term that is often used to describe close friendships between men. These relationships contain elements of emotional intimacy, but physical intimacy may occur as well, such as...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-331-the-surprising-intimacy-of-bromances/

What does it really mean to be “kinky?” It can be difficult to say because kink is a subjective term that means different things to different people. Kink can also be a fantasy, a practice, o...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-330-the-science-of-kink/

When romantic partners move in together, something they need to figure out is how to manage their finances. Will your money be shared or separate? And who will pay for what? These conversations c...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-329-monogamy-in-this-economy/

If you’ve never lived with multiple partners before, figuring out how to navigate this kind of situation can pose some challenges. For example, how do you determine where everyone will sleep? H...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-328-tips-for-living-with-multiple-partners/

We discussed sex tips for women in the previous episode , so today we have some tips for the guys. Some of the topics we’ll discuss include how to have stronger erections, what you need to know...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-327/

Female sexual pleasure is a topic that is not often covered in traditional sex education. In fact, it’s extraordinarily rare for the word “clitoris” to even be mentioned in sex ed! The unfo...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-326-sex-tips-for-women/

Sex educators and researchers are often called upon to serve as expert witnesses in legal proceedings. This is particularly true in cases that center around kink or BDSM, consensual non-monogamy,...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-325-sex-on-trial-tales-of-an-expert-witness/

A lot of us aren’t getting what we really want in bed. For example, there might be certain positions, activities, or techniques that you prefer or enjoy, but you aren’t quite sure how to ask ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-324-how-to-get-what-you-want-in-bed/

Sexual conflict is inevitable in long-term relationships. It’s virtually impossible for partners to always be erotically in synch with one another at all times over the course of many years tog...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-323-the-most-common-sex-fights/

Today, more people identify as LGBTQ+ than ever before. However, this is largely due to a big increase in the number of persons identifying as bisexual. So in this episode, we’re going to dive ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-322-why-bisexuality-is-on-the-rise/

The penis doesn’t always do what you want it to do. For example, sometimes you might want an erection but can’t get one, or maybe you’ll reach orgasm faster than you’d like. These things ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-321-penis-problems-and-how-to-fix-them/

How much do you know about the penis? You may think you already know everything there is to know, but you probably don’t. That’s why today’s episode is going to dive into what you don’t k...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-320-what-you-dont-know-about-the-penis/

Was it consensual kink or sexual abuse? This question is at the heart of a growing number of legal cases. Unfortunately, people sometimes try to claim consensual kink as a cover for sexual violen...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-319-the-bogus-bdsm-legal-defense/

When people become nonmonogamous, they don’t always stay nonmonogamous for life. Sometimes people decide to take a temporary break from it. Other times, people stop practicing it altogether bec...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-318-what-comes-after-nonmonogamy/

A common theme in many people’s sexual fantasies is being “forced” to have sex. In the world of kink, this is widely known as consensual non-consent (CNC). So why is this such a popular sex...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-317-the-psychology-of-consensual-non-consent-fantasies/

People have the potential to develop fetishes for virtually anything. If you can think of it, somebody probably has a fetish for it! However, fetishes remain among the most misunderstood and stig...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-316-why-are-people-into-that-the-truth-about-fetishes/

Imagine for a moment that your partner told you they had a sexually transmitted infection. What should (and shouldn’t) you say or do in that situation?  That’s what we’re going to be talki...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-315-my-partner-has-an-sti-what-do-i-do/

A lot of people find it hard to talk to their partners about sex in general. But discussing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) specifically can be even more challenging. It is such a fraught ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-314-how-to-tell-your-partner-you-have-an-sti/

“Life is short, have an affair.” That’s the tagline of Ashley Madison, the infamous online dating service that caters to married people who are looking to commit infidelity. Ever since its ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-313-ashley-madison-sex-lies-and-scandal/

MILFs are having a moment. Sexy moms have been a fixture in the popular media for decades, but they’ve never been more popular than they are now. So what’s behind the appeal of the MILF? And ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-312-why-milfs-are-more-popular-than-ever/

Physical intimacy is one of the keys to maintaining healthy and satisfying relationships. But I’m not just talking about sex. Non-sexual physical intimacy is just as important, if not more so! ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-311-the-power-of-touch-in-relationships/

Most people say that they find oral sex to be a pleasurable activity, but that doesn’t mean that people always enjoy giving or receiving it. A quick search on social media reveals countless pos...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-310-tips-and-tricks-for-better-oral-sex/

Did you know that July 31 is National Orgasm Day? That’s right—there’s actually a holiday dedicated to the big O! Unfortunately, we don’t get the day off of work, but we’re going to cel...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-309-what-happens-in-the-brain-during-an-orgasm-essential-listen/

Social media is increasingly where people are turning in order to learn about sexual health, from dealing with sex problems to coping with infertility. But is it giving us accurate information? N...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-308-sex-ed-on-social-media-the-good-bad-and-ugly/

A growing number of men seem to be in a panic about their testosterone levels. Social media platforms are full of posts from guys who are convinced that they don’t have enough of this hormone i...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-307-testosterone-myth-versus-fact/

For today’s show, we’re diving into more listener questions! I’m going to answer two questions that popped up in my podcast voicemail that I thought were really interesting. The first deals...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-306-is-it-normal-to-fall-asleep-during-sex-listener-questions/

Stuck in a dating rut? It might be time for a new approach! In today’s show, we’re going to learn how to master the art of mindful dating, which involves taking a more intentional approach to...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-305-mastering-the-art-of-mindful-dating/

When you take pleasure in your partner’s pleasure or happiness, this is known as compersion. It’s a form of positive empathy that many people in non-monogamous relationships experience. Howev...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-304-what-is-compersion/

It turns out that many of the things we think we know about sex aren’t entirely true. So let’s set the record straight and explore what we do and don’t know about sex and the human body. ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-303-common-things-we-get-wrong-about-sex-essential-listen/

From the vampires and werewolves in Twilight to Bigfoot to the beast from Beauty and the Beast, it turns out that a lot of people are turned on by the idea of getting it on with a monster. But wh...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-302-the-psychology-behind-attraction-to-monsters/

When I studied the sex fantasies of thousands of Americans for my book Tell Me What You Want , I found that 33% of adults had fantasized about a monster or mythical creature before, such as a vam...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-301-monsters-with-serious-sex-appeal/

Sex toys and sexual wellness products for men have long been stigmatized, but it’s time to change that. There are numerous products on the market that have the potential to help men improve the...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-300-lets-talk-about-penis-pumps/

In recent years, the pelvic floor is a topic that has received increased attention in the popular media. However, discussions of pelvic health tend to focus mostly on women. Male pelvic health is...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-299-lets-talk-with-a-pelvic-doc/

When it comes to having sex, there are a lot of “rules” that what we’re supposed to follow. But many of those rules contradict one another, making it hard to know what to do. In today’s s...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-298-the-keys-to-good-sex-according-to-a-sex-therapist/

A lot of the relationship advice littering every corner of the internet tries to distill love into a simple set of “rules.” It’d be nice if things were that easy, but they aren’t! It’s ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-297-how-to-love-someone-without-losing-your-mind/

Anal sex (and how to make it pleasurable) is one of those topics that people usually have to figure out all on their own. So think of today’s episode as the all-you-need-to-know guide to good a...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-296-how-to-have-pleasurable-anal-sex/

Anal sex is something humans have been practicing for thousands of years. However, is has long been shrouded in taboos, which has led to the proliferation of a lot of myths and misconceptions. In...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-295-common-myths-about-anal-sex-debunked/

It’s Masturbation Month, so today’s episode is going to be all about self-pleasure! The origins of Masturbation Month date back to 1995, when US Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders stated tha...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-294-masturbation-may-and-the-science-of-self-pleasure-essential-listen/

For today’s show, we’re diving into listener questions! I’m going to answer two questions that popped up in my podcast voicemail that I thought were really interesting. The first deals with...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-293-listener-sex-and-relationship-questions-answered/

Modern psychology has a very complicated relationship with gender. Gender differences have become one of the most contentious areas in the field, and it seems like psychology isn’t entirely sur...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-292-psychology-doesnt-know-what-to-do-with-men-anymore/

A lot of sex advice boils down to one popular idea: that good sex is simply a matter of combining the right physical sensations with the right kind of mental activity. In other words, great sex i...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-291-a-new-way-of-thinking-about-sex/

Sex is something that evolves with us over the course of our lives. Your level of desire, the connection you have with your partner(s), and what feels good during sex can all shift quite a lot. H...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-290-how-to-have-hot-and-healthy-sex-for-your-entire-life/

Most sexual problems don’t require intensive therapy to solve because, more often than not, the root cause is a lack of sex education. Most of us never really learned what we need to know about...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-289-popular-sex-questions-answered-by-a-sex-therapist/

It’s STI Awareness Month, so let’s take some time to brush up on our knowledge of sexually transmitted infections. You may think you already know everything there is to know, but trust me, yo...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-288-what-you-dont-know-about-stis-essential-listen/

In the previous episode , we talked all about how psychedelics can help in treating sexual problems. In this episode, we’re going to dive into the ethical and legal considerations of psychedeli...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-287-ethical-and-legal-issues-in-psychedelic-therapy/

We’ve long known that psychedelics have the potential to help treat various mental health issues, but researchers are starting to take notice of the potential therapeutic applications of these ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-286-using-psychedelics-in-sex-therapy/

The term “ethical gangbang” probably sounds like an oxymoron to a lot of folks. Can a gangbang really be ethical? Let’s talk about it! In today’s show, I’m speaking with a porn director...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-285-ethical-gangbangs-filming-a-group-sex-scene/

What goes on behind the scenes when porn is filmed? In today’s show, I’m going to be speaking with a director who has decades of experience creating adult films. We’re going to explore how ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-284-sex-on-screen-how-erotic-cinema-is-made/

Do you feel like work is getting in the way of your sex life? If so, you’re definitely not alone. Work can leave us tired or exhausted, heavily stressed, and highly distracted, which is a recip...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-283-dont-let-your-job-ruin-your-sex-life/

Seventy percent of adults have experienced one or more traumatic events in their lifetime, with sexual trauma being among the most common forms. There’s a popular narrative in the media that tr...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-282-healing-and-moving-beyond-sexual-trauma/

Interest in non-monogamy is on the rise, with nationally representative US surveys now finding that approximately one-third of American adults say their ideal relationship would be sexually open....

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-281-tips-for-navigating-non-monogamy/

Most reality dating shows follow the same formula in that they’re fundamentally about two people finding love and building a couple relationship. However, the new series Couple to Throuple off...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-280-from-couple-to-throuple/

Imagine that your genitals were in a constant, uncontrollable state of arousal. You might be thinking that doesn’t sound too bad, but you’d be mistaken. Persistent genital arousal disorder (P...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-279-living-with-uncontrollable-genital-arousal/

Antidepressants are notorious for their sexual side effects, including diminished sexual desire and difficulties with arousal and orgasm. It was long thought that these side effects were temporar...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-278-sexual-dysfunction-after-stopping-antidepressants/

In the not too distant past, most people followed the same relationship model and settled down into monogamous marriages pretty early in life. Today, however, people are spending more and more of...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-277-what-people-want-from-relationships-today/

Some of the most common sex questions I’ve received from listeners over the years include, “Am I having enough sex?” and “Am I masturbating too much?” While people are often very intere...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-276-how-much-sex-are-people-having/

If you start scrolling through Instagram or TikTok, it’s only a matter of time before you’ll come across some anti-masturbation content. You’re likely to hear that masturbation is bad for y...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-275-masturbation-fact-versus-fiction/

Human beings have a long and complicated history with masturbation. Although it was originally pursued without care or consequence, self-pleasure eventually came to be seen as a pathway to diseas...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-274-the-wacky-history-of-masturbation/

People today are having less sex compared to generations past, but a greater proportion of the sex we’re having is casual. However, casual sex is something people have a lot of mixed experience...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-273-how-to-have-good-casual-sex/

There are literally tens of thousands of different sex toys out there to choose from, so how do you pick the toy that’s right for you? In today’s show, we’re going to talk about where to st...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-272-how-to-pick-the-sex-toy-thats-right-for-you/

What are men’s and women’s most common sexual problems? And what can we do to address them? That’s what we’re going to be talking about on today’s show. I’m going to pick a urologist�...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-271-how-to-fix-common-sexual-problems/

One of men’s biggest sexual concerns is whether their penis is big enough. In fact, nearly half of adult men report dissatisfaction with their size, almost all of whom wish they were larger. Th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-270-penis-enlargement-what-does-and-doesnt-work/

Most of us could benefit from having a little more pleasure in our lives, both in and out of the bedroom. However, we’re not getting that pleasure for many reasons, including the fact that we l...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-269-the-keys-to-a-pleasure-filled-life/

A surprising amount of sexuality research isn’t very sex-positive, and this is especially true when you look at sex research on minority populations. Historically, most of it has been focused o...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-268-sex-positive-sexuality-research/

With Valentine’s Day being this month, love is in the air. So let’s talk about some tips for maintaining happy and healthy loving relationships all year long! In today’s show, we’re revis...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-267-the-science-of-love-essential-listen/

What are the keys to sexual and relationship satisfaction? It turns out that some of the most popular ideas out there about what makes for a healthy and happy intimate life just aren’t backed u...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-266-the-secrets-to-sexual-satisfaction/

A growing number of people are living alone by choice—they simply prefer to live on their own. Many of them still have sex and relationships, but only on their own terms. They want freedom from...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-265-living-single-and-living-your-best-life/

Over the last half-century, we’ve seen a dramatic change in people’s living and relationship arrangements. Specifically, more adults are living on their own, and fewer are getting married. In...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-264-the-rise-of-single-living/

Almost everyone has sexual fantasies—and has them often. But most of us have questions about our fantasies, including what they really mean, how to share them with a partner, and how to go abou...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-263-lets-talk-about-sexual-fantasies/

There’s the sex life you have, and then there’s the sex life you want. So how do you actually get the one that you want? This is something a lot of people struggle with, so that’s what we�...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-262-how-to-get-the-sex-life-you-want/

A negative cycle starts when one partner in a relationship feels hurt and then says something critical. Then, the other partner feels hurt and responds in kind. This repeats over and over, and th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-261-breaking-negative-cycles-in-relationships/

In long-term relationships, partners often find that they’re having the same fights over and over again. The fights are often triggered by something seemingly small, but then they have this way...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-260-why-couples-have-the-same-fight-over-and-over/

A lot of people want to bring change into their love life, but they feel stuck. They’re ready and eager for change, but they don’t know how to do it or how to get their partner on board. In t...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-259-how-to-change-your-relationship/

When a relationship is new, the sex usually comes pretty easy. However, as the years go by, partners often find that their sexual connection declines. This doesn’t have to happen, though. There...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-258-creating-a-sexual-connection-that-lasts/

New year, new sex life. The transition between years is always a good time to stop and reflect, and that includes thinking about your intimate life. How are things going? Are you getting what you...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-257-making-a-sex-plan-for-the-new-year-essential-listen/

“The Five Love Languages” is a wildly popular, bestselling book that came out just over 30 years ago. Since its arrival, the love languages have become a massive cultural phenomenon. However,...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-256-the-problem-with-the-5-love-languages/

One of the most popular tropes that you’re bound to encounter in writings about human sexuality is that men are simple, while women are complex. There’s a pervasive belief out there that sex ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-255-common-myths-about-male-sexuality/

A lot of men feel insecure about their bodies and sexual performance despite the fact that they fall clearly within the normal range. It’s easy for them to feel like there’s something wrong w...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-254-what-we-get-wrong-about-mens-bodies/

Every time a new year rolls around, people start making resolutions for self-improvement. As you start to think about your own resolutions, consider resolving to have better sex. With the right s...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-253-resolutions-for-better-sex-in-2024-essential-listen/

Digital sex work is booming. Over the last two decades, sex work has increasingly moved online and it has become a multi-billion dollar industry. The transition to online sex work is changing a l...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-252-onlyfans-and-the-rise-of-digital-sex-work/

What is it like to be a sex worker? It depends who you ask, with different studies pointing to drastically different conclusions. The truth is that you can’t paint sex workers in overly broad s...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-251-what-its-like-to-be-a-sex-worker/

In some ways, teens today seem to be more sexually cautious. They’re waiting longer to have sex and they’re having fewer partners. At the same time, however, they’re also engaging in riskie...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-250-how-to-have-the-talk-with-your-kids/

The sexual landscape for teens has shifted dramatically over the last two decades. Among the more notable changes we’ve seen are that rough sex is on the rise, and teens are increasingly explor...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-249-what-todays-parents-need-to-know-about-teens-and-sex/

In the Information Age, keeping our private lives private is becoming harder and harder to do. For example, our online searches and chats are leaving digital traces, while our phones (and even ou...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-248-maintaining-sexual-privacy-in-the-information-age/

In 2022, the United States Supreme Court reversed a half-century old ruling that had legalized abortion in this country. Since then, reproductive healthcare has become more difficult to access in...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-247-reproductive-surveillance-in-the-post-roe-world/

In the previous episode, we explored the life and times of Shere Hite, who published what is perhaps the bestselling non-fiction book about sex ever to hit the market. Despite selling 50 million ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-246-the-disappearance-of-shere-hite/

There are a lot of hidden figures in the history of sex research who made important contributions to the field, but who are frequently forgotten. One of them is Shere Hite , who authored the best...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-245-the-pioneering-female-sex-researcher-that-time-forgot/

What does the future hold when it comes to sex toys? Artificial intelligence, virtual reality, and robotics are just a few of the many emerging technologies that are likely to become an increasin...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-244-the-future-of-sex-toys/

If you’re looking to take your sex life to the next level, something you might want to think about it is trying more sex toys! Sex toys have the potential to make sex, both solo and partnered, ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-243-5-ways-sex-toys-can-revolutionize-your-sex-life/

How can I have better, hotter sex? This is a super common question people have about their intimate lives, so that’s what we’re going to be talking about today. In this episode, we’re going...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-242-how-to-have-the-hottest-sex-ever/

This week on the show, I have a special treat for you: I’m speaking with the co-hosts of the Shameless Sex Podcast , which is one of the most-listened to sexuality podcasts in the world! They h...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-241-how-to-have-shameless-sex/

It’s November again, which means that the annual abstinence challenge known as “No Nut November” is back in full force. This challenge originated on Reddit several years back and it seems t...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-240-the-truth-about-masturbation-essential-listen/

Ever since people started having sex, they had kinky sex. While kink itself is not new, kink practices have certainly changed over time, as have people’s opportunities to explore and experiment...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-239-kinky-in-the-digital-age/

Some folks who frequent kink and BDSM spaces have observed that there seems to be a higher percentage of neurodiverse persons compared to other social settings. So is there actually a link betwee...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-238-are-neurodiverse-people-more-likely-to-be-kinky/

There’s a lot of research out there on the subject of anal sex; however, surprisingly little of it has focused on how women feel about this activity. Fortunately, a large nationally representat...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-237-how-women-feel-about-anal-sex/

Some women experience a large expulsion of fluid during sexual arousal or orgasm, often referred to as squirting. Although this is by no means a new discovery, the nature of the fluid, what it’...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-236-the-science-of-squirting/

Polyamorists tend to be stereotyped and portrayed in the popular media as pretty liberal bunch. However, it turns out that they’re actually quite diverse in their political views. This isn’t ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-235-the-surprising-politics-of-polyamory/

Believe it or not, the term “polyamory” has only been around for a little over 30 years. However, while the name itself is still relatively new, the practice of it definitely isn’t. Althoug...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-234-the-evolution-of-polyamory-in-america/

As I look back on all of the amazing guests and conversations we’ve had on this show, I’ve begun to curate a list of ”essential listens.” These are the shows that are often a sexual revel...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-233-your-brain-on-sex-essential-listen/

I’ve received countless emails from people who have discovered that their partner has a kink they didn’t previously know about—and, now, they’re not sure what to do because they’re not ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-232-what-to-do-when-your-partner-is-kinkier-than-you/

From the rise of online dating, to internet porn, to sexting and cybersex, our intimate lives are increasingly digital. Although it’s undoubtedly great that we have these new ways to connect an...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-231-safe-sex-in-the-digital-age/

Sexual consent is not as simple and straightforward as it might sound. It’s actually a complex and highly nuanced concept that means different things to different people and is communicated dif...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-230-how-to-make-consent-sexy/

There’s a growing narrative out there in the popular media and on social media that “men are trash” and that they need to “do better.” The response of some men has been to push back, an...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-229-men-masculinity-male-sexuality-in-the-21st-century/

In both porn and pop culture, we’re increasingly seeing women strapping on dildos and anally penetrating men, a sex act known as pegging. So what’s behind this growing trend? Let’s talk abo...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-228-the-rise-of-pegging/

Despite the fact that anal sex has become an increasingly common sexual activity, it’s a subject that continues to be ignored in almost all sex education. As a result, people generally have to ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-227-the-ins-and-outs-of-anal-sex/

It’s one thing to visit a sex shop, but it’s quite another to stand behind the counter! Working in one of these stores can be a very fulfilling and rewarding experience, but it can also be ch...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-226-what-its-like-to-work-in-a-sex-shop/

At the beginning of the 20th century, burlesque shows featuring stripteases took the United States by storm. They played on Broadway and were popular across the country. By the end of the century...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-225-an-inside-look-at-the-world-of-burlesque/

MILF is one of the most searched for terms on popular porn sites year after year. So why are so many heterosexual guys drawn to hot, middle-aged mother figures? In the previous episode, we talked...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-224-the-appeal-of-the-milf/

Whenever an older female celebrity dates a younger guy, it tends to make the news. These women, often referred to as “cougars” or “MILFS,” have long had their relationships subject to scr...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-223-older-women-who-date-younger-men/

What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think about the city of Berlin, Germany? There’s a good chance that you pictured a kinky nightclub. It’s estimated that as many as 1 in 3 ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-222-from-kitkat-to-berghain-inside-berlins-sex-clubs/

Earlier this year, I taught a study abroad course on sex and culture in Berlin. As part of that trip, we took a three-hour guided tour on Berlin’s sexual history, and it was fascinating! I want...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-221-berlins-kinky-sexual-history/

We live in an era where the preferred treatment for most health issues, including sexual problems, is increasingly a pill. However, this medicalized approach frequently overlooks the root cause. ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-220-the-medicalization-of-sex/

Condoms are one of the best tools we have available for protecting our sexual health. However, modern condoms leave something to be desired. It is so easy to point to problems with condoms that m...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-219-its-time-to-build-a-better-condom/

There is undoubtedly a dark side to dick pics, such as when they’re sent without consent or used as a form of harassment. However, when shared consensually, there’s a positive side worth ackn...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-218-the-psychology-of-dick-pics/

One of the most popular posts I’ve ever written on the Sex and Psychology blog was about why so many men send unsolicited dick pics to women. At the time, there wasn’t much research on the s...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-217-a-cultural-history-of-the-dick-pic/

There is an “awakening of self” that happens when people practice non-monogamy. This awakening has the potential to be exciting and exhilarating, but also frightening and destabilizing becaus...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-216-how-opening-up-a-relationship-can-change-you/

We tend to be attracted to partners who are similar to us—and that makes sense. But no matter how similar you and your partner are, there are always going to be some areas where you differ. And...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-215-dealing-with-differences-in-relationships/

If you ask any sex educator, researcher, or therapist what the most common question they receive is, they’re probably going to have a very quick answer. People ask us a LOT of sex questions—a...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-214-common-sex-questions-answered/

Making a sustainable living as a sex educator is harder than it sounds. Despite all you’ve heard about how “sex sells,” it’s actually a much tougher sell than you might think! There are a...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-213-the-business-of-sex/

A lot of people have ideas about sex therapy that are totally wrong. For example, some people seem to think that the therapist is going to be having sex with you, or that they’re going to watch...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-212-what-sex-therapy-is-really-like/

The most commonly offered piece of sex advice I hear people give is to communicate more. While this advice certainly makes sense, simply telling people to “communicate more” can ring kind of ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-211-tips-for-improving-sexual-communication/

In the previous episode , we talked about sexual desire discrepancies, which occur when partners want different amounts of sex in a relationship. In that show, we focused on how to navigate this ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-210-when-you-want-more-sex-than-your-partner/

In long-term sexual relationships, partners aren’t always on the same page about sex. This is normal. However, when a sexual desire discrepancy becomes large and persistent, it can become a sig...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-209-when-you-want-less-sex-than-your-partner/

From Albert Einstein to James Joyce, it turns out that a lot of revered historical figures had fascinating intimate lives and a proclivity for kink. So let’s continue the discussion of kinky hi...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-208-the-history-of-fetishes-pegging-and-kinky-scientists/

It turns out that for as long as humans have been having sex, they’ve been having pretty kinky sex! So let’s talk about our kinky history. In today’s episode, we’re going to explore the h...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-207-the-history-of-kinky-sex/

In recent years, the term “ethical non-monogamy” has gone mainstream. But what does it actually mean to be ethically non-monogamous? That’s what we’re going to be talking about today. We�...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-206-making-ethical-non-monogamy-work/

Interest in polyamory is on the rise. Google searches for it have been increasing for years, it’s increasingly being discussed in the popular media, and some municipalities are starting to offe...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-205-one-womans-polyamorous-journey/

It is hard to believe, but we recently reached episode number 200 of this podcast! So how do you celebrate 200 episodes of a sex show? I decided to put together a compilation of some of the most ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-204-more-fascinating-facts-about-sex/

Humans are wired to feel good when we get the kind of touch that we want. But when we can’t get that, it’s bad for both our physical and psychological health. Prior to the COVID-19 pandemic, ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-203-digital-touch-can-technology-meet-our-intimate-needs/

One of the keys to maintaining healthy, long-term romantic relationships is physical intimacy. I’m not just talking about sex, though. For many reasons, non-sexual physical intimacy is just as ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-202-why-touch-is-so-important-in-relationships/

Let’s talk about sexual fantasies! In today’s show, we’re going to explore what people fantasize about doing sexually—and how that varies around the world. So how does culture influence w...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-201-what-we-fantasize-about-and-how-to-share-your-fantasies/

Sexual fantasies are fascinating! There is so much diversity and variability in the way we envision these scenarios, so let’s talk about it. Today, we’re going to dive into some of the intere...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-200-inside-the-world-of-sexual-fantasies/

Have you ever wondered what goes on behind the scenes when porn is filmed? There’s a lot more that goes into it than you might think! In today’s show, I’m going to interview a porn director...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-199-behind-the-scenes-on-a-porn-set/

Over the last decade or so, many of the conversations about porn taking place in the popular media have shifted to the topics of ethical porn and feminist porn. But what does it really mean for p...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-198-the-rise-of-ethical-and-feminist-porn/

While it might be tempting to assume that people who cheat aren’t in very satisfying relationships, it turns out that even people who are very happy and in love with their partners sometimes co...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episodes-197-why-people-in-happy-relationships-cheat/

Imagine a woman wanders around a college campus and asks 100 different men at random whether they’d have sex with her. Now imagine a man wandering around the same campus asking 100 women for se...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-196-a-man-asked-100-women-for-sex-how-many-said-yes/

In 2017, the world’s first sex doll brothel opened its doors. Since then, several others have opened up in major cities around the world.  These brothels exist in a gray legal zone and a lot o...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-195-inside-a-sex-doll-brothel/

Modern sextech is rapidly changing the way people gratify their sexual and intimate desires. Sex dolls, sex robots, and chatbots are starting to become more accessible and popular. In today’s s...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-194-sex-dolls-sex-robots-and-chatbots/

In the United States, a whopping 89% of teens now have smartphones. Parents give their kids these devices for numerous reasons, with safety being at the top of the list; however, parents don’t ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-193-the-rise-of-teen-sexting/

When people today look back at popular films and TV shows from decades past, they are often completely aghast at the sex scenes. Through our modern lens, they frequently read as problematic. Whil...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-192-consent-culture-in-television-and-film/

Picture a married heterosexual woman who is having an affair. Why do you think she’s engaging in infidelity? It is purely about sex and pleasure? Is it about intimacy and emotional connection? ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-191-the-4-types-of-affairs-women-have/

Rates of infidelity have risen over the last half-century; however, if you break the data down by gender, it turns out that men’s rate of infidelity has remained relatively stable, whereas wome...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-190-women-who-stray-the-rise-of-female-infidelity/

Asexuality is a broad umbrella term that refers to individuals who do not experience sexual attraction to others, or who only do so under rare or limited circumstances. Growing research in this a...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-189-what-asexuality-is-and-isnt/

Where does a person’s sexual orientation come from? Hundreds, perhaps thousands, of studies have attempted to answer this question. This research suggests that there isn’t a simple explanatio...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-188-where-does-our-sexual-orientation-come-from/

Some adults feel highly distressed about their porn use. In most of these cases, the root cause of the problem can be traced back to shame or moral conflicts surrounding porn. At the same time, h...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-187-out-of-control-sex-compulsive-sexual-behavior-disorder/

Research on pornography’s effects points to a fascinating paradox: the people who report the most problems stemming from porn use are often the ones using the least porn! How is that possible? ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-186-men-who-use-the-least-porn-have-the-most-porn-problems/

The growing anti-porn movement has fueled the rise of an entire industry centered around selling people on the idea of masturbatory abstinence. Often referred to as a “reboot,” these programs...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-185-the-problem-with-porn-reboot-and-recovery-programs/

How does porn affect us? And are people becoming “addicted” to it? Today, we’re going to begin a four-part series on the science of porn to better understand its effects. For our first show...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-184-the-truth-about-porn-addiction/

Although the Southern United States is often seen as a bastion for conservative sexual values, it has a very deep and rich sexual history worth exploring, especially when you consider a city like...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-183-how-atlanta-became-a-southern-hub-for-vice/

Until 1960, sodomy was illegal throughout the entire United States. While this technically made oral and anal sex illegal for everyone, these laws were largely enforced only when sodomy occurred ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-182-could-sodomy-laws-come-back/

Nationally representative surveys of North American adults have found that about 1 in 5 people say they’ve been in a sexually open relationship at some point, with an even larger number express...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-181-attachment-styles-and-consensual-non-monogamy/

A 2023 nationally representative survey of 1,000 American adults conducted by YouGov inquired about people’s attitudes toward various forms of non-monogamy and found that most adults tend to v...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-180-5-misconceptions-about-consensual-non-monogamy/

Gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men are increasingly finding sexual partners through apps such as Grindr. These apps haven’t just changed the way people find partners, though, th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-179-lets-talk-about-gay-hookup-apps/

While the term “safe sex” might imply that there’s a perfectly safe way to have sex, there’s always going to be some degree of risk, both physical and emotional. Whenever you have sex, yo...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-178-from-sexual-shame-to-sexual-freedom/

How do we prevent sex crimes from happening in the first place? Today, we’re going to talk about some of the things that do (and don’t) work. This is the second episode in a two-part series ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-177-how-to-prevent-sex-crimes/

Why do people commit sex crimes? We often hear that they’re not really motivated by sex and, instead, that they’re about power and control. However, it’s more complex than that, and underst...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-176-inside-the-minds-of-sex-offenders/

The stereotype we often hear about singles in the popular media is that they’re sad. In reality, however, a lot of them are thriving and living their best lives, which we talked all about in th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-175-when-single-life-sucks/

The number of American adults living single has been on the rise for years. Part of this increase has been driven by a growing number of folks who simply prefer the single life. And, for them, be...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-174-when-being-single-is-awesome/

In the previous episode, we talked all about the pelvic floor , including what it is, the important role it plays in sexual function, as well as what you need to know about Kegel exercises. Today...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-173-tips-for-treating-pelvic-floor-problems/

The pelvic floor is a super important set of muscles that plays a vital role in sexual, reproductive, urinary, and bowel function. However, most of us don’t know all that much about it, which i...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-172-what-everyone-needs-to-know-about-the-pelvic-floor/

A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-171-how-to-initiate-sex/

When it comes to navigating romantic relationships, the struggle is real. So why are relationships so hard? And is it possible to make things a little easier? Let’s talk about it! Today’s epi...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-170-love-signals-relationship-red-and-green-flags/

So much sex advice can be boiled down to just one thing: communication. But how exactly should you communicate about sex? And what are the things you need to communicate about? In this episode, w...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-169-five-conversations-that-will-transform-your-sex-life/

There’s a pretty big gap between fantasy and reality. In my own research, I’ve found that about 80% of adults say they have a fantasy they’d like to act out at some point, but just about 20...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-168-how-to-bring-your-sexual-fantasies-to-life/

A lot of us have had the experience of dating the “wrong” person over and over again. It’s just one unhealthy relationship after another. So why is it so common for people to find themselve...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-167-in-a-dating-rut-it-might-be-your-attachment-style/

It’s common for people in long-term relationships to get out of synch when it comes to sex. This can happen for a ton of reasons, from changes in health and hormones to relationship conflict to...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-166-how-to-reset-your-sex-life/

How do you feel about your sexual fantasies? Research tells us that many people feel alone in their sexual turn-ons, thinking that their fantasies are strange or unusual. In fact, this is why one...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-165-all-about-sexual-fantasies/

There’s an interesting paradox in modern relationships where, if there’s too much jealousy, that can cause a lot of problems. At the same time, though, if there isn’t enough jealousy, that ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-164-how-to-deal-with-jealousy/

Despite the fact that I write and talk about sex all day, I don’t actually watch a lot of movies and TV shows about sex because it often feels too much like work! However, every so often a film...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-163-a-sexplanation-how-to-enjoy-shame-free-sex/

Many of us have a mold for what romantic relationships “should” look like, and then we try to make our own relationships fit that. But, no matter how hard we try, sometimes it just doesn’t ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-162-creative-monogamy/

One of the most popular articles on the Sex and Psychology blog is about the psychology of facials , a sexual act in which one person ejaculates on another person’s face. This behavior is one o...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-161-performative-sex-and-the-psychology-of-facials/

One of the key principles embedded in many models of sexual consent is that consent must be specific. In other words, you need to know exactly what it is that you’re saying yes to. This also me...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-160-tomorrow-sex-will-be-good-again/

As many as 1 in 3 college students in the United States may be participating in “slut pages.” Slut pages are part of a digital underground world in which nude or partially nude photos and vid...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/slut-pages-and-revenge-porn/

Relationships are hard. But they can be especially hard when you or a partner are dealing with depression. In this episode, we’re going to explore how mental health issues like depression can p...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/dating-with-depression-relationships-and-mental-health/

As a sex educator, one of the most common questions I get from parents is when and how to talk to their kids about sex. When should these conversations begin? And what do you need to know to succ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-157-how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-sex/

What can you do to build stronger and healthier relationships in the New Year with everyone in your life? Let’s talk about it! In today’s episode, we’re going to discuss a wide range of rel...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-156-resolutions-for-healthy-relationships/

The end of another year is rapidly approaching, and that means a lot of people are soon going to start making resolutions for self-improvement. Oftentimes, those resolutions revolve around improv...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-155-new-years-resolutions-for-the-best-sex-of-your-life/

The latest evolution in pornography and erotica is virtual reality (VR), which is making adult content increasingly interactive. Most of the buzz about VR erotica involves taking solo masturbatio...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-154-virtual-reality-might-be-the-future-of-sex-therapy/

Intimacy coordinators carefully choreograph sexual and intimate scenes to ensure respect and safety for the performers. However, what they actually do—the nuts and bolts of it all—is difficul...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/153-how-movie-and-tv-sex-scenes-are-filmed/

Sex scenes are common in movies and on TV, but have you ever stopped to think about everything that goes into bringing one of those scenes to life? It’s a unique situation, and it puts the acto...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-152-the-rise-of-intimacy-coordinators/

Low sexual desire is one of the most common sexual problems out there, but it’s something that has been notoriously difficult to treat pharmacologically. The search for a pill that can produce ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-151-better-sex-through-mindfulness/

It is well known that depression (and certain drug treatments for depression, notably SSRIs) can lower sexual interest, desire, and activity levels. However, it turns out that the story of how de...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-150-the-complicated-link-between-depression-and-sex/

We’ve talked a lot about orgasms on this show, but there’s still much to explore! So today’s episode is going to dig into some interesting aspects of orgasm we haven’t really discussed be...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-149-all-about-orgasms/

For decades, sex toys were largely marketed to women, with male sex toys really only starting to make an appearance in the last few years. Survey studies find that most adult men say they’ve ne...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-148-lets-normalize-sex-toys-for-men/

We are once again in the midst of the annual abstinence challenge known as “No Nut November.” Basically, it involves men giving up ejaculation for the entire month (i.e., no “nutting” all...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-147-masturbation-and-the-science-of-self-pleasure/

In recent years, a growing number of women of reproductive age have started walking away from the birth control pill. In fact, one survey found that 70% of those who were using the pill said the...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-146-gen-z-is-walking-away-from-the-pill-will-they-turn-back/

Most people will encounter a sexual problem at some point in their lives, but most will suffer in silence. Shame and embarrassment lead a lot of folks to avoid talking about sex problems and seek...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-145-solving-sexual-problems-without-sex-therapy/

When it comes to birth control pills, there’s more than meets the eye. Hormonal contraception can have wide-ranging effects on both body and mind, to the point where who you are on the pill mig...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-144-your-brain-on-birth-control/

Although the modern sex doll industry largely caters to straight men, a growing number of heterosexual women are getting in on the action by purchasing male sex dolls. Sex dolls for women have ac...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-143-boy-toys-women-who-buy-male-sex-dolls/

Want to lead a better life in the bedroom and beyond? This episode is for you! I asked six experts for their favorite pieces of sex advice, relationship advice, and life advice. These bonus inter...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-142-sex-love-and-life-advice-from-the-experts/

What was the most popular porn search term last year? According to Pornhub, it was hentai. This term refers to a form of animated or cartoon porn and it seems to be on the rise. So how did hentai...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-141-why-cartoon-and-animated-porn-are-so-popular/

When it comes to buying and selling sex, people most commonly think of men as the buyers and women as the sellers. However, while men are indeed far more likely than women to report having paid f...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-140-women-who-pay-for-sex-and-the-men-who-sell-it/

Imagine you are a sex therapist and one of your patients discloses a sexual interest that either makes you personally uncomfortable or is something you are totally unfamiliar with. This often hap...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-139-the-leather-couch-kink-bdsm-and-sex-therapy/

Attachment theory was originally based on the assumption that everyone is or wants to be monogamous; however, many people are polyamorous or otherwise engaged in consensual nonmonogamy. So how do...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-138-navigating-attachment-with-multiple-partners/

Most of us have had a kinky fantasy at some point in our lives, and many of us have actual experience with kink in the bedroom as well. In fact, nationally representative US surveys find that at ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-137-demystifying-kink-and-bdsm/

The process of opening up a relationship can bring with it a number of benefits, but also a number of challenges. So what does it actually look like when a couple goes down the path of opening up...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-136-what-happens-when-a-couple-opens-their-relationship/

Contrary to popular belief, genital stimulation isn’t absolutely necessary when it comes to orgasm. Many people have experiences with “non-genital orgasms,” which are orgasms that result fr...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-135-nipplegasms-and-other-nongenital-orgasms/

Every relationship we have could benefit from defining some boundaries, whether we’re talking about relationships with our employers, friends, or sexual partners. However, most of us aren’t ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-134-how-to-set-sexual-boundaries/

Some people want to have sexual and romantic relationships but are unable to do so. They are involuntarily celibate. For some, this perceived inability to form and maintain sexual and romantic re...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-133-inside-the-minds-of-incels/

Flirting and seduction can be tricky business. For example, when you want to let someone else know you’re interested, what do you even say? And how can you tell when someone is just being polit...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-132-ethical-flirting-and-seduction/

In 1947, Dr. Alfred Kinsey established the Institute for Sex Research to protect and preserve his pioneering research on human sexuality. Later renamed the Kinsey Institute, the organization foun...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-131-the-past-present-and-future-of-the-kinsey-institute/

Your brain truly is your biggest sex organ, which means that if you want to have more–and better–sex, the key is really to make sure that you’re in the right headspace. However, this is som...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-130-change-your-mind-change-your-sex-life/

Most people have had a sexual fantasy about something that would be illegal to do in reality. That’s normal. But talking about those fantasies sometimes gets people into a lot of trouble becaus...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-129-when-sexual-thoughts-become-sex-crimes/

A lot of people in long-term relationships lose desire for sex and start thinking there’s something wrong with them. But, in many cases, the problem isn’t that they lack desire per se–it’...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-128-how-to-stop-having-bad-sex/

There are a lot of heterosexual women out there who enjoy watching man-on-man pornography. In fact, some of the most popular tube sites in the world have reported that gay male porn is amongst th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-127-girls-who-like-boys-who-like-boys/

Many sex therapists have argued that women’s sexual desire is relational, meaning that as long as a woman is in a good relationship and she’s connected with her partner, interest in sex shoul...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-126-why-women-lose-desire-for-sex-faster-than-men/

When it comes to sex, you deserve to get what you want and to be in control of your body, your pleasure, and your sexual health. However, in order to do that, you have to be sexually empowered. Y...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-125-the-path-to-sexual-empowerment/

The terms “sex” and “intercourse” are often used interchangeably, but the truth is that sex doesn’t have to include intercourse at all! In fact, outercourse often makes for even more sa...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-124-how-to-have-great-outercourse/

The state of sex education is poor for American adolescents—but you probably already knew that. However, what you may not realize is that the state of sex ed for adults entering fields like med...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-123-sex-ed-for-healthcare-professionals/

When it comes to both sexual identity and gender identity, it’s not uncommon for people to say “I was born this way.” However, while both same-sex attraction and gender non-conformity are ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-122-born-this-way-its-more-complicated-than-that/

Our dating lives are a mess. Nationally representative US surveys conducted prior to the COVID-19 pandemic found that about two-thirds of single Americans said their dating lives weren’t going ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/why-dating-sucks-and-how-to-make-it-better/

If you have a penis, then you probably already know that it doesn’t always do what you want it to do. Sometimes you’ll get an erection when you don’t want one–and sometimes you won’t be...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-120-penis-performance-problems/

Let’s get kinky! Today’s episode is a compilation of some of my favorite clips about the psychology of kink, BDSM, and fetishes. We’re going to revisit my interviews with Dr. Richard Sprott...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-119-all-about-kink/

We keep a lot of things about our lives secret–but especially sexual things. People may hide their sexual thoughts, behaviors, and even feelings. And, sometimes, these secrets interfere with ou...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-118-our-biggest-sex-secrets-revealed/

Think about a secret you’re keeping right now. Odds are, it shouldn’t take long for something to come to mind. We all keep secrets. In fact, the average person is keeping roughly 13 secrets a...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-117-the-secret-life-of-secrets/

All too often, political debates about abortion are full of myths and misconceptions. For this reason, a better understanding of abortion is crucial. So that’s what today’s episode is all abo...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-116-abortion-fact-versus-fiction/

Have you ever noticed yourself feeling hornier than usual when you travel? If so, you’re not alone. Being away from home seems to put a lot of people in the mood for sex. So why is that? The an...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-115-why-travel-makes-us-horny/

One of the keys to having truly great sex is approaching it with the right mindset. However, this isn’t something that we’re usually taught in sex education, which tends to focus more on the ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-114-how-to-change-your-sexual-mindset/

We’re often our own worst enemies when it comes to having the sex we really want. Shame, secrecy, self-doubt, fear of failure—all of these things have a way of interfering with our ability to...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-113-hot-and-unbothered-how-to-have-the-sex-you-really-want/

There are a ton of sources for sex advice out there, which is great. But too many of them suffer from the same problem: they take a one-size-fits-all approach when, in reality, different things a...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-112-uncovering-your-core-erotic-themes/

According to some sources, a majority of all marriages in the world are arranged. Despite how common this practice is, little research has been conducted on the subject—and there are a lot of m...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-111-what-you-dont-know-about-arranged-marriage/

If your romantic partner were to become sexually or romantically interested in someone else, how would you feel? Jealousy is often presumed to be the default response, especially in monogamous re...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-110-jealousy-and-compersion/

A masochist is someone who derives pleasure from the experience of pain. While we often think of masochism as being a purely sexual thing, it’s actually a pervasive part of everyday life. From ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-109-hurts-so-good-why-we-seek-pain-on-purpose/

Survey studies find that about 1 in 5 people say they’re been in some type of sexually open relationship before. Despite how common consensual non-monogamy is, research, data, and information o...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-108-navigating-consensual-non-monogamy/

Everyone has an “attachment style,” which refers to the way that you tend to interact and connect with others in intimate relationships. Psychologists have found that attachment styles are re...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-107-understanding-your-attachment-style/

Men who have sex with men often identify themselves in terms of sexual positions, such as top, bottom, or versatile to reference the role they prefer to take during anal sex. But what if none of ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-106-top-bottom-side-whats-your-position/

College students tend to be stereotyped as a pretty horny bunch who are hooking up every chance they get. But are today’s college students really having more sex than ever? That’s what we’r...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-105-less-sex-more-kink-the-sex-lives-of-todays-college-students/

Bestselling author Lisa Taddeo has put women’s stories front and center in all of her books. Her work explores how women navigate sexual desire, sexual trauma, and sexual double standards–and...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-104-womens-sexuality-and-desire/

Why are we attracted to some people, but not to others? The answer to this question is surprisingly complex, but research has uncovered a set of scientifically-backed principles that can pretty r...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-103-the-laws-of-attraction/

In the classic film When Harry Met Sally, Meg Ryan famously said, “Most women at one time or another have faked it.” And she was right. But it turns out that women aren’t the only ones who ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-102-the-truth-about-fake-orgasms/

Human beings spend about one-third of their lives asleep. We do this because sleep is an essential body function. When we don’t get enough sleep, we suffer in a lot of ways–and that includes ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-101-want-better-sex-get-better-sleep/

It is hard to believe, but we have reached episode 100 of this podcast! So how do you celebrate 100 episodes of a sex show? I’ve put together a compilation featuring some of the most fascinatin...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-100-fascinating-facts-about-sex/

When you go out on a date with someone, who should pay for it? When two people of the same sex or gender go out, they’ll often split the bill—but when it’s a man and a woman, more often tha...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-99-who-should-pay-on-the-first-date/

The impact of religion on our sex lives is complex—it is neither uniformly negative nor positive. The way that religion affects sexuality really depends upon how sexuality is situated within a ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-98-navigating-sexuality-and-religion/

When you’re feeling that intense passion in the early stages of a relationship, having great sex is usually pretty easy. However, those feelings don’t tend to stick around very long. It’s n...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-97-keeping-passion-alive-in-long-term-relationships/

Masturbation is something that most people do, but many of us have a complicated relationship with it. For example, some people are under the impression that masturbation is an unhealthy or even ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-96-the-wonderfully-weird-history-and-science-of-masturbation/

Have you ever fantasized about being ‘forced’ to have sex? If so, you’re not alone. Fantasies about being taken against one’s will (also known as ‘ravishment fantasies’ and ‘consens...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-95-the-psychology-behind-forced-sex-fantasies/

As someone who studies the science of sexual fantasies, every time I think I’ve heard it all, I discover something new. Human beings are endlessly inventive and flexible when it comes to their ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-94-uncommon-sexual-fantasies-tentacles-monsters-and-cows-oh-my/

When it comes to sex, we could all benefit from a few pointers because great sex is usually something we have to figure out on our own. On previous episodes of the show, we’ve talked about thin...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-93-tips-for-having-the-best-sex-ever/

One of the keys to great sex is being in the right headspace and allowing yourself to be totally immersed in the experience. If you’re not fully into it, it’s easy for your mind to start wand...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-92-how-to-get-in-the-right-headspace-for-sex/

Relationships are hard for everyone, but they can be especially hard when you’re living with a mental health issue such as depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Psychological stru...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-91-sex-and-love-when-you-have-anxiety-ocd-or-depression/

Until very recently, the sight of a penis in film or on television was a rarity. And when it happened, it was a big deal. The promise of even a fleeting glimpse would overshadow everything else. ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-90-the-rise-of-male-full-frontal-nudity-and-prosthetic-penises/

Sexual difficulties are common, and they can be highly distressing. They don’t have to mean the end of your sex life, though. Fortunately, most difficulties can be resolved and you can get back...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-89-tips-from-a-sex-therapist/

During pregnancy and parenthood, it’s not uncommon for sex to decrease and/or become less pleasurable. When this happens, it can potentially spill over and create broader relationship and intim...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-88-navigating-sex-during-pregnancy-and-parenthood/

Relationships can be a source of tremendous joy. But they can also be a source of tremendous pain, especially when they come to an end that we just weren’t ready for. When a valued relationship...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-87-sex-and-intimacy-after-grief-and-loss/

When people think about what their sex lives will look like as they get older, they usually don’t see much to look forward to. They tend to think about problems that might arise and how sex may...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-86-tips-for-better-sex-at-any-age/

For decades, social scientists warned that living together before marriage increased the odds of later divorce. However, this runs contrary to conventional wisdom. In fact, most American adults t...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-85-should-we-move-in-together-before-marriage/

People’s sexual identities and behaviors don’t always line up in the way that you might expect. For example, a lot of people who identify as heterosexual or straight report having had partner...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-84-straight-people-who-have-gay-sex/

Many of us feel sexually insecure in some way. For example, you might be concerned about your body shape or size, the appearance of your genitals, and/or your sexual skills or performance. We are...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-83-how-to-overcome-insecurity-and-feel-sexually-confident/

Human beings have been practicing birth control for thousands of years. Today, there are dozens of different contraceptives available, many of which are highly effective and increasingly convenie...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-82-the-future-of-birth-control/

There is a huge industry built around making women feel insecure about their genitals in order to sell them so-called “feminine hygiene products.” They’ve convinced many women that their va...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-81-vaginal-health-explained/

We’re going back to the brothel in today’s episode! This is the second part of a two-part series of interviews I conducted in a sex club in Amsterdam during a recent study abroad course I ta...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-80-sex-and-culture/

I taught a study abroad course on sex and culture in Amsterdam a few months ago for a group of sex therapists and, as part of that class, we visited a brothel. To be clear, we didn’t go for sex...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-79-inside-an-amsterdam-brothel/

Sexting has become so common that it’s not a stretch to call it the new “first base” in developing sexual relationships. For many people, sexting is now an integral part of how they connect...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-78-lets-talk-about-sexting/

Modern technology has made us more connected than ever, but at the same time, many of us feel increasingly disconnected. We just aren’t getting the intimacy we’re craving. We’re starving fo...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-77-starved-for-intimacy/

Relationships and marriages aren’t just hard–they’re harder than ever because the expectations around them have changed so much. What worked in the past isn’t working anymore, so it’s t...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-76-creating-ideal-relationship-agreements/

More than 60% of American adults say they’ve had sex with a friend in the past year, a number that has increased considerably over the last two decades. Despite the fact that sex between frien...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-75-making-friends-with-benefits-work/

Sex education in the United States leaves a lot of people on the sidelines, from racial and ethnic minorities to LGBTQ+ youth to persons with disabilities. Part of the reason for this is that jus...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-74-how-to-make-sex-ed-work-for-everyone/

How can you tell if you’re in lust or in love? Is “love at first sight” real? When is the right time to say “I love you” in a relationship? And how do you keep love alive long-term? Tod...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-73-the-way-you-make-me-feel-the-science-of-love/

At one time or another, almost everyone has had a BDSM fantasy of some type. Despite its widespread popularity, however, BDSM is a subject that remains widely misunderstood and stigmatized. It’...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-72-kink-on-the-brain-the-truth-about-bdsm/

Space travel is a rapidly expanding industry. In the near future, people are going to be traveling and maybe even living outside of Earth’s atmosphere for prolonged periods of time. This raises...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-71-sex-in-space-and-sex-with-robots/

Cuckolding refers to a sexual practice in which someone finds it arousing to watch their partner have sex with another person. I first learned about cuckolding nearly a decade ago and, in the yea...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-70-the-rise-of-cuckolding/

From penis enlargement to vaginal rejuvenation, modern medicine is offering those who are concerned with their genital appearance the opportunity to obtain “designer genitals.” In recent year...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-69-designer-genitals-the-truth-about-genital-enhancement-surgery/

Before the pandemic hit, the number of American adults living single was at a record high, while the marriage rate was at a record low. But that might all be about to change, according to results...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-68-what-do-singles-today-really-want/

As you ponder your New Year’s resolutions for 2022, think about things you can do to improve your sex life! With the right set of resolutions, you can address problem areas and tap into unfulfi...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-67-resolutions-for-better-sex-in-the-new-year/

If you’re feeling extra horny right now, it’s not just you! The winter holidays are one of the times of year when sexual interest and behavior reliably increase. We see this in everything fro...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-66-why-the-holidays-make-us-horny/

What does it mean to be asexual? This is something that different people have defined in different ways, and there are a lot of misconceptions about it. That’s why this episode of the podcast i...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-65-understanding-asexuality/

Most of us never got the sex education we really needed, which leaves us with a lot that we need to figure out all on our own. Fortunately, technology is making it easier than ever to fill in the...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-64-how-technology-can-save-your-sex-life/

If you ask someone to describe their sexuality, odds are they’ll probably tell you something about the sex or gender of the people they’re attracted to. However, that’s just one of many asp...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-63-a-new-way-of-thinking-about-sexual-orientation/

Evolutionary psychologists have long argued that women’s sexual behavior is driven by hormonal changes that occur throughout the menstrual cycle, including everything from their desire for sex ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-62-the-myth-of-the-hormonal-woman/

Each November, media buzz around the annual abstinence challenge known as “No Nut November” seems to grow. This challenge involves men giving up ejaculation for the entire month. That means n...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-61-no-nut-november-and-the-science-of-masturbation/

What does it really mean to have an orgasm? Different people—and even different scientists—define “orgasm” in different ways, which makes this a surprisingly difficult subject to study sc...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-60-the-science-of-orgasms/

Most people say that their ideal relationship would be monogamous. Despite this, however, a lot of people seem to have a really hard time maintaining monogamy. So why is that? And if monogamy is ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-59-can-you-cheat-proof-your-relationship/

What do the sex lives of college students today look like? And how have they changed over time? I spoke with a sex educator who has amassed more than 30 years’ worth of data from students takin...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-58-the-sex-lives-of-college-students/

A lot of people think about sexual orientation and gender as stable characteristics of the self–they think that people are just born a certain way. While it’s certainly true that many people ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-57-the-science-of-sexual-fluidity-and-gender-fluidity/

People can develop sexual fetishes for virtually anything. In fact, it’s not a stretch to say that if you can think of it, somebody probably has a fetish for it. So why is that? How do fetishes...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-56-where-do-sexual-fetishes-come-from/

Today’s youth are facing a complicated landscape when it comes to sex. They live in a world where sex is all around and porn is more easily accessible than ever before, but they’re not being ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-55-sex-pleasure-consent-and-the-intimate-lives-of-teens-today/

Sexual difficulties are common, but people tend to have a really hard time talking about them. In fact, people often find it easier to avoid the subject entirely, which can lead sex to disappear ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-54-how-to-have-better-sex-and-deal-with-sexual-difficulties/

Have you ever heard that there are 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, or that the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis? These statements appear as facts in countless social med...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-53-everything-you-think-you-know-about-sex-is-probably-wrong/

Do people from different cultures have different sexual fantasies? Or are there common threads that run through our fantasy worlds? As someone who studies fantasies, these are questions that have...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-52-sex-fantasies-around-the-world/

When did college “hookup culture” actually begin? Who is it helping, and who is it hurting? And what can people today do to navigate hookup culture and casual sex in healthy ways? For the a...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-51-american-hookup-inside-college-hookup-culture/

Why do humans have sex? To many, the answer to this question might seem obvious—but the truth is that our reasons for sex are many and varied, and some of the reasons people cite might very wel...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-50-how-many-reasons-are-there-to-have-sex-at-least-237/

Divorce sucks. It can suck away your time and energy, your money, and, in some cases, even your will to live. So is there anything you can do to “divorce-proof” your relationship and avoid th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-49-divorce-sucks-how-to-move-on-after-breakup/

Everyone’s brain is a little different when it comes to sex—and understanding how your sexual brain works is one of the keys to unlocking more pleasure and improving your sex life. That’s w...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-48-sex-on-the-brain/

Testosterone is one of the most misunderstood and maligned hormones in the human body. It gets blamed for toxic masculinity, sexual assault, aggression, and more. That’s why this episode of the...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-47-the-truth-about-testosterone/

It’s time to reimagine sex education and start giving people the sex ed they need—and deserve. So what should that look like? That’s the subject of my latest podcast with special guest Dr. ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-46-the-sex-education-you-deserve/

Marriage is hard. And, in many ways, it’s harder today than it was in the past because what we’re asking of our partners now is so dramatically different than it was before. Whereas marriage ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-45-why-marriage-is-so-hard-and-how-to-make-it-better/

There are a lot of things people get wrong about kink, including the idea it’s inherently rooted in trauma and mental illness, that it’s abusive, and that kinky people can’t develop healthy...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-44-the-science-of-kink-bdsm-and-fetishes/

People’s interest in polyamory is growing. For example, Google trends reveal that searches related to polyamory have risen significantly over the last decade . However, while interest is climbi...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-43-the-truth-about-polyamory/

Getting into a relationship is much easier than getting out of one. People have a tendency to slide into relationships without putting in a lot of thought. But when it comes to getting out of a r...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-42-the-decisions-that-make-or-break-a-relationship/

It is often said that the most important decision you make in your life is who you decide to have a relationship with—yet most of us are never really taught anything about how to make this deci...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-41-the-secrets-of-relationship-success/

Although sex, dating, and relationships can bring us great joy, they also have a very dark side. For example, people sometimes lie or deceive others in order to have sex. And in dating and relati...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-40-sexual-deception-jealousy-and-the-dark-side-of-relationships/

Is it really true that having a greater number of sexual partners necessarily means you have a greater risk for sexually transmitted infections (STDs)? Nope! It turns out that a lot of the things...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-39-the-surprising-secrets-of-stds/

Where do our dreams come from? And what, if anything, do they actually mean? As someone who is a very vivid dreamer every single night, I have always been curious to learn more about the psycholo...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-38-sex-dreams-and-what-they-mean/

What does an affair really look like? What do people do, say, and feel when they cheat on a romantic partner? And why do so many people commit infidelity in the first place? In this episode of th...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-37-inside-an-affair-sex-lies-and-cheating/

May is Masturbation Month, so let’s talk self-pleasure! Masturbation is a topic that has long been shrouded by secrecy and shame, and it’s well past time that we bust the harmful myths, break...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-36-the-magic-of-masturbation/

One of the most common questions I get asked as a sex educator is how to open up a monogamous relationship. People ask about this for a wide range of reasons. For example, some folks have always ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-35-the-guide-to-opening-up-a-relationship/

Sex is a topic that is all too often neglected in the doctor’s office. That’s unfortunate because our health affects our sex lives and, at the same time, our sex lives affect our health. We n...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-34-how-to-talk-to-your-doctor-about-sex/

In long-term relationships, feelings of passion tend to be really intense in the beginning, but typically decrease over time. As a result, one of the most common questions people ask about relati...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-33-how-to-keep-passion-alive/

What does sex and relationship therapy look like for LGBTQ patients? What are the main issues that come up, and how are they similar to or different from the issues that arise in therapy with cis...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-32-sex-and-relationship-therapy-with-lgbtq-patients/

Sexual difficulties are more common than you might think. In fact, data from large nationally-representative surveys indicate that just over half of women and more than 40% of men report having...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-31-common-sex-problems-and-how-to-fix-them/

The COVID-19 pandemic disrupted our sexual and romantic lives in a lot of different ways over the last year, and while some of the changes that occurred are temporary, others may stick around for...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-30-the-future-of-sex-and-relationships/

Dr. Ian Kerner is the Sherlock Holmes of sex—he’s a detective who helps people to understand the mysteries behind their sexual problems. His approach to sex therapy begins with a simple quest...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-29-so-tell-me-about-the-last-time-you-had-sex/

People have a tendency to think that the best sex of their life is in the past—it’s the sex they had when they were younger. So when people think about what their sex lives will look like in ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-28-how-to-have-great-sex-for-your-entire-life/

Much has been said and written in the popular media about ‘hookup culture’ and the rise of casual sex. Trend pieces often portray casual sex as inherently damaging and bad for our mental heal...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-27-the-guide-to-casual-sex-and-healthy-hookups/

For her doctoral dissertation, Dr. Katherine Frank worked as a dancer in several strip clubs and interviewed the regulars. As a student of anthropology, it was important for her to “do as the n...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-26-inside-a-strip-club-with-a-cultural-anthropologist/

What actually goes on at a sex research conference? A lot of people seem to have the impression that it’s just a non-stop sex party. I hate to disappoint, but that’s not the case! I’m going...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-25-an-inside-look-at-a-sex-research-conference/

What really takes place behind the scenes on an adult film set? What is it like to attend an orgasmic meditation retreat? Journalist Tracy-Clark Flory has the answers. In her lengthy career cover...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-24-a-sex-writers-journey-into-the-heart-of-desire/

Imagine there was a drug you could take to enhance your relationship or deepen your connection with your partner. Or a drug that could get rid of romantic jealousy. Or a drug that could help you ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-23-chemical-romance-how-drugs-can-help-us-fall-in-love-and-move-on-after-breakup/

Bisexuality continues to be one of the most misunderstood and controversial sexualities. Some people don’t think it exists at all and that it’s just a transitional identity people adopt befor...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-22-what-we-get-wrong-about-bisexuality/

Ever hear that story about how Victorian-era doctors were using vibrators on female patients who had been diagnosed with “hysteria?” That used to be one of my favorite stories to tell in my h...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-21-the-history-of-sex-toys/

For most of us, our experience with sex education centered primarily around preventing sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies, with pleasure being mentioned rarely or not at all...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-20-how-to-level-up-your-sex-life/

Kissing is one of the most common sexual and romantic activities, and it’s often people’s very first partnered sexual experience. Surprisingly, though, kissing is something that is rarely stu...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-19-the-science-of-kissing-and-how-to-be-a-better-kisser/

As a sex educator, one of the topics I get asked about most often is anal sex. This isn’t surprising, given that this subject usually isn’t discussed at all in most people’s sex education c...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-18-everything-you-ever-wanted-to-know-about-anal-sex-but-were-afraid-to-ask/

Interest in polyamory is on the rise. Google trends reveal that searches related to polyamory have increased significantly over the last decade . Although interest is climbing, myths and misconce...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-17-polyamory-fact-versus-fiction/

A lot of people seem to be under the impression that men’s sexuality is simple. They see men as being perpetually horny and DTF and as always wanting more sex than women. They also tend to see ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-16-what-we-get-wrong-about-mens-sexual-desire/

In the eyes of many, pornography is inherently problematic. In fact, some have gone as far as to dub it a “public health crisis” because they see it as addictive and as one of the root causes...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-15-the-truth-about-porn/

Having a threesome is one of the most popular sexual fantasies . In fact, when I surveyed more than 4,000 Americans about their biggest turn-ons for my book Tell Me What You Want , I found that t...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-14-everything-you-ever-wanted-to-know-about-threesomes/

In sexual encounters between men and women, research has consistently found that there’s a sizable orgasm gap, such that men tend to reach orgasm with far greater frequency than their female pa...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-13-the-orgasm-gap-and-how-to-close-it/

There are a lot of stereotypes about disabled persons, but one of the biggest is that they are necessarily asexual. However, that’s just not true. Disabled people have sexual wants and needs. T...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-12-sex-and-disability/

There is a common tendency to think about sex as simply a person-to-person interaction. However, this view overlooks the fact that sexual identity, attraction, and behavior are all influenced by ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-11-sex-power-and-social-justice/

Cuckolding is a sexual practice in which someone is aroused by the idea of watching or listening while their partner has sex with another person—and it’s a surprisingly popular sexual interes...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-10-the-psychology-of-cuckolding/

In the United States, the marriage rate is near a record low, and 40-50% of marriages end in divorce. Research has also found that rates of marital satisfaction have declined over time. In short,...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-9-the-truth-about-marriage/

People have a tendency to assume that those who are kinky and/or polyamorous must have sexual communication all figured out. However, just like anyone else, they face their own set of sexual and ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-8-sex-therapy-in-kinky-and-polyamorous-relationships/

One of the most common relationship problems that drives couples to therapy is a sexual desire discrepancy, where one partner wants more sex than the other. In fact, about 1 in 4 people report h...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-7-sexual-desire-and-how-to-increase-it/

What are the most common sexual fantasies in America? Where do our fantasies come from, and what do they say about us? And how can we communicate more effectively with our partners about our fant...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-6-tell-me-what-you-want-the-science-of-sexual-fantasies/

Lockdowns and “social distancing” guidelines are changing our intimate lives in major ways. For example, one of the things we’re seeing in our own research is that people are increasingly ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-5-sextech-sexting-and-dick-pics-in-the-time-of-covid-19/

These are unprecedented times. Much of the world is currently living under lockdown conditions and practicing social distancing in order to curb the spread of the COVID-19 coronavirus. So how is ...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-4-maintaining-a-healthy-intimate-life-during-lockdown-and-social-distancing/

In this episode of the podcast, I interview Dr. Nan Wise, a cognitive neuroscientist, certified sex therapist, and Associate Research Professor at Rutgers University. Dr. Wise just published a fa...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-3-why-good-sex-matters-and-the-neuroscience-of-pleasure/

Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a term that most people are familiar with. But when we hear about someone having ADHD, we tend to think about children and adolescents and how t...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-2-how-adhd-affects-peoples-sex-lives-and-relationships/

For the first episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I sat down with two relationship experts, Drs. John and Julie Gottman. They are the founders of The Gottman Institute and they have been s...

https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-1-sex-love-and-relationship-advice-from-drs-john-and-julie-gottman/