SCARPHELIA

Here's a fun opener: It's taken me a long time to realise I don't actually hate myself.  It's been the melodramatic default of my mind for so many years, but I guess it just took this extended ...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2020/05/lets-get-embarrassing.html

I took a walk around my neighbourhood yesterday evening, just as the light had begun to turn golden. And when I say around my neighbourhood I mean down every single road and street I could thin...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2020/04/embracing-nothing.html

It's mad how going for a walk is now the absolute highlight of my day.  I'm discovering places in my city I never even knew existed, and planning adventures to exciting, exotic and distant (ye...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2020/03/going-out-for-cry.html

This morning I awoke to the sun-dappled street shimmering gloriously through the window by my bedside, and for a moment it felt like any ordinary day. It wasn't long, however, before reality crep...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2020/03/filling-pool.html

March 11th was a fairly unremarkable day. According to my records it was a Wednesday, slightly overcast, and I had the day off. It was a mere 13 days ago, which seems somewhat impossible to bel...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2020/03/life-comes-at-you-fast.html

I'm just gonna come out with it: This past year has been really, really hard. The other day I tried to recall everything that's happened since January and it would seem every single conceiva...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2019/11/rituals.html

On trading Scarphelia for Sit Down, and the story behind our debut EP: 'Cheap Luxe' It'd been a month since we'd returned from the fateful summer in New York City, I was sitting in the co...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2018/03/sit-down-cheap-luxe.html

"I won't be the villain in your stories any more." I said, as the midnight waves crashed against the shore and we shivered in the moonlight, his arm draped over my stiff shoulders. It was...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2018/03/the-last-scorned-woman.html

It’s the dead of winter, and still a surprise to run a thumb across my wrists and find grooves where the strings were once tied. My breath fogs against the icy glass, a storm between two pan...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2017/12/the-scars-inside-ourselves.html

Boy oh boy, have I had to think long and hard about how to start this. In fact, it’s taken me MONTHS from the moment I began typing this sentence to get to this point now - which if doesn...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2017/02/the-final-act-of-scarphelia.html

There’s a sweet little irony in only realising where you were going wrong in something, once you come to the end. A kind of long-awaited clarity where, with a deep 'Ohhh', the reason for a...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/08/homecoming.html

"We like recovery stories to move quickly through the dark so we can get to the sweeping redemptive ending." - Brené Brown, Rising Strong A curious quirk about the nature of blogging,...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/07/why-were-too-scared-to-admit-when-were.html

'I learned that you cannot speak on other people's behalf, but you can share your own truth and listen to other people's. Because there are a lot of young women who need to be listened to.' ...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/07/book-review-ctrl-alt-delete-emma-gannon.html

When I was a child, I always remember having a similar kind of nightmare. I was a witch, a superhero, perhaps even a mutant - someone passionate with something important to stand for, and...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/07/i-o-u.html

Okay, I really need to tell you about The Art of Asking , because I'm pretty sure it's changed my life forever.  I picked this up about a year ago after being recommended, and totally ad...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/06/12-powerful-quotes-from-art-of-asking.html

Self-discovery is one of the most unique aspects of intelligent life.  Some dedicate their lives to it, some use it to fuel their art, some have even made a fortune telling their own st...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/06/why-just-be-yourself-is-worst-advice.html

You know, when I received the email in my inbox, before I even opened it, I actually took a screenshot ready to post some 'relatable lols' about how PR emails always look like they're inviti...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/05/ten-bloggers-sent-to-desert-island.html

I cannot tell you the relief I feel to watch this thick layer of frost begin to thaw and trickle over each and every inch of my warming skin.  I've been in hibernation for months now, nu...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/05/the-filler-episodes-of-life.html

I think I become disenfranchised by social media on a weekly basis. I swear if I vocalised every time inner me threw up her arms and said 'That's it, I'm out, I'm deleting all my accounts!' my...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/04/6-people-who-make-my-internet-better.html

A few days ago I met up with an old beloved university friend, the boy that sat next to me the day I typed my first ever word of this blog over three years ago. I hadn't seen him in a long t...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/04/thats-me-in-spotlight-losing-my-ambition.html

This, more so than for anyone else, is for the girl that writes it. I want you to sit down and cry because you're not good enough and you never will be.  I want you to sit, strapped d...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/04/the-comeback-kid.html

I'd waited in the departures hall for 2 hours already, terrified of missing my flight after the Irish girl I'd met over the weekend had explained the series of disastrous events which had le...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/04/one-night-in-copenhagen-airport.html

Truly nothing excites me more in life, than observing another human being - perhaps across the room,  perhaps on a stage, perhaps half-obscured and wrapped up in conversations with other pe...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/03/more-than-just-fertility-talking-ageism.html

"I guess my greatest inspirations at the moment are anything to do with pop culture of the 60's and 70's," I replied to kind folks of the Willoughby Book Club when they asked what kind of bo...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/03/when-wbc-gave-me-vivienne-westwood.html

I could sit down and explain all of the epiphanies and inspirations which have instigated what I'm about to say and do, but I'll leave you with just this one: 'My duty is to understand. T...

http://www.scarphelia.com/2016/03/the-one-where-she-finally-realises-its.html