Postcards from the Mothership » Loss

Once upon a time, whenever something of significance happened in my life, I made sense of it by blogging about it. Though I don’t blog as regularly or as intimately as I used to, I still feel t...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2017/09/19/saying-goodbye-to-papa-lou/

I‘m looking for a way to put a buffer between the blog post about the dog and the blog post I’m going to write in a few days for Tristan’s birthday. They don’t seem like they should be ju...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2013/03/05/this-is-a-transitional-blog-post/

My darling Miss Katie, You arrived in our lives when our lives were just coming together. Before we were married, before three noisy boys, before we owned a house, before it all came lovely Miss ...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2013/03/02/a-love-letter-to-katie-1999-to-2013/

A couple of weeks before Beloved and I got married in the summer of 1999, a friend who knew that I was desperate for a dog called me up. “I hear you’re moving from an apartment to a townhouse...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2010/12/20/katies-story/

My dad is taking his dog to be put down today, and my heart aches for both of them. Sassy is a gorgeous malamute, the kind of dog that other people stop you on the street to tell you how beautifu...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2008/01/03/saying-goodbye-to-sassy/

The forecast called for a mild day with drizzle, a nice change from the month-long deep freeze we had been enduring. I happily dug my long spring coat from the back of the closet where it had bee...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2007/03/29/a-box-of-raisins/

I was blissfully engrossed in the task of finally getting around to framing some old photos, while also making dinner and tidying the living room, when the phone rang late one Saturday afternoon....

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2007/02/08/on-helping-a-friend-through-a-miscarriage/

How do you know your family is complete? How did you decide? Did you always know? Did you just stop? Were you forced to stop by circumstance, or forced to accept more than you expected? Whatâ€...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/12/29/how-do-you-know/

All I can say at this point is thank the deity of your choice that November is finally over. A new page on the calendar is as good a place for a fresh start as any. And December means the ramp-up...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/12/01/dani-and-the-terrible-horrible-no-good-very-bad-day/

I have my follow-up with my OB today. I don’t expect to learn anything, really. Maybe the pathology report can explain what happened, but mostly I’m expecting her to check that my parts are h...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/30/loose-ends/

Much to my relief, not only did I manage to do up my fat jeans today, but I wore them all day. It’s amazing what a relief that is. And, I haven’t cried since Friday. Well, there was one weepy...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/27/small-victories/

While I was out this morning, Beloved took a call for me. On Monday morning, just before my OB appointment, I had gone to have my second and final bloodwork done for the integrated prenatal scree...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/25/post-script-part-one-of-many/

I’ve been trying to write something all day, but whatever I’m feeling one minute I’m feeling the opposite the next, and it’s hard to generalize the flavour of a day that way. So why do I ...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/24/mood-swings/

I’m overwhelmed by your collective kindness. Beloved and I and even my mother are simply in awe of your support, of how many of you have taken the time to offer support, share your experiences,...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/23/thank-you-2/

Warning: this will not be a pretty post. You don’t have to read it, but I have to write it. I’m sorry. I wish this could all just be over. If I can’t have it back, I at least wish it would ...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/22/adding-insult-to-injury/

The hardest part for me right now is making sense of what happened. By all measures, this was an exceptionally healthy pregnancy: the high early betas; the fact that the risk of miscarriage falls...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/21/random-attempts-to-cope/

I went in for a routine OB appointment today. I was delighted when she told me to hop up on the table so we could ‘take a listen’ – I had completely forgotten I should now be far enough alo...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/11/20/its-over-a-miscarriage/

I’ve always believed in a greater order to the universe, if not in an actual higher power. Not exactly fate, because I believe we do control our own destinies. But I strongly believe that every...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/08/02/saying-goodbye-to-frostie/

I’ve spent a lot of this past week and a half pretty much obsessed with my breasts. They’ve always been the canary in the coal mine, my first indicator of pregnancy. As such, I must...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2006/08/01/i-have-no-idea-what-to-call-this-post/

I’ve been thinking for a while about telling you our infertility and IVF story, and I figure now is as good a time as any. Most of you are busy eating leftover turkey and shopping for deal...

http://danigirl.ca/blog/2005/12/29/the-big-infertility-story/